Polly's Tango Talk

Gender Think

From my book “Tango Quest.”


Men and women approach life and  tango in their own way.


 He thinks about results.

She thinks about process. 

 He thinks about steps.

She thinks about connection.

 He thinks about technique.

She thinks about style.

 He thinks of dancing as moving while holding someone.

She thinks of dancing as being held while moving.

 He wishes he knew  more tricks.

She wishes he would do fewer tricks.

 He thinks of how his moves work.

She thinks of how his moves feel.

 He hopes his dance is interesting.

She hopes his embrace is comfortable.

 He sees the floor as an obstacle course.

She sees the floor as a path to bliss.

He dances to the music.

She dances with the music.

 He leads from the top down.

She responds from the floor up.

 He likes to travel forward.

She likes to dance in place.

 She thinks about what she’s wearing.

He thinks about what she’s not wearing.

 He hopes she will dance with him again.

She hopes he will ask her again.


  1. Enjoyable read… until the next-to-the-last line…

    That’s quite a dig on the guys… Kind of cutting. Not all guys are after the proverbial one-night-stand…

    I wish you would have said, “some time”, instead of, “the night”. It would have been be a little “less harsh” while keeping with intended flow.

    But apart from that, it was an enjoyable read. Good job.

    Comment by Red State Terpsichorean — January 6, 2011 @ 7:46 pm | Reply

  2. Nice post. Seen in this perspective I really enjoy being a woman in tango.

    Comment by Anonymous — May 22, 2013 @ 7:17 pm | Reply

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